AmazingGrace
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How can I make them see light?
What light exactly do you mean?
First thing I would suggest is to talk to them one on one. If you are in group and it's you alone against group of girls(and boys?), it's not fair, they'll support each other, try to look cool in front of each other, make fun of it just to brush it off and make you look stupid.
I wouldn't try to push on them to stop, if you did this to me I would be even more determined to continue out of rebellion. I think questions are much better (asked with love, not blame, e.g. just out of curiosity), without pushing something on them and blaming them, by questions you make them think about the answer and they may realize better in what situation they are. It' tactic of psychotherapists, by questions and conversation they bring you to the core of your problem and resolution
I don't know how old you and your friends are, but maybe ask something like: What future do you see ahead (...if you continue your current lifestyle)? Where will you go when you finish school, what will you do to make money? Will you stay with parents so you can watch kpop stuff and read novels all day? I knew that if I don't start doing internships and educate myself in area of work where I wanted to go, I would be probably stuck in some dull, uninteresting, low pay, long hours, manual labor job that doesn't provide much to help me or others grow. Is that what your friends want? School and internships can help you start higher in the job hierarchy, it can open many doors. But you have to do something for it, plan, explore what kind of person you are, what could be interesting for you, research.
Another level (if they start to want to break fee) could be to help them realize that what they're into is intentionally created to work like a drug. It evokes strong emotions and dependence, uses psychological traps, clever marketing and manipulation to get money out of people and to destroy life of young generation with addiction and comparing with people who have borrowed designers clothes, professional make-up artists and photographers. Questions I would ask here (nicely and with love when atmosphere is right) could be: Why do you think you love kpop so much? Do you really think the idols like and care for their fans? Isn't it only marketing tactic? Why do you think it distract you form other things like school, family - do you think it's a good how it changed your life and priorities? Why not/why yes? What is it giving you? Something valuable? You help idols get that award, and you gain what? Good feeling? A bit unfair deal, don't you think? They got millions for that award and you even payed with your money and time so they could. They worked hard so they deserved it? When will you start to care and work for your own good instead of someone who doesn't even know you exist?
But I think I would ask this only in calm, honest conversation. Arguing wouldn't work for me personally
Another level (if they start to want to break fee) could be to help them realize that what they're into is intentionally created to work like a drug. It evokes strong emotions and dependence, uses psychological traps, clever marketing and manipulation to get money out of people and to destroy life of young generation with addiction and comparing with people who have borrowed designers clothes, professional make-up artists and photographers. Questions I would ask here (nicely and with love when atmosphere is right) could be: Why do you think you love kpop so much? Do you really think the idols like and care for their fans? Isn't it only marketing tactic? Why do you think it distract you form other things like school, family - do you think it's a good how it changed your life and priorities? Why not/why yes? What is it giving you? Something valuable? You help idols get that award, and you gain what? Good feeling? A bit unfair deal, don't you think? They got millions for that award and you even payed with your money and time so they could. They worked hard so they deserved it? When will you start to care and work for your own good instead of someone who doesn't even know you exist?
But I think I would ask this only in calm, honest conversation. Arguing wouldn't work for me personally
You wrote they don't listen to reason, so you probably already tried some of what I mentioned above.
Well, reality is stranger than fiction.
They will not tell you this, but the idols and companies use magic, hexing and spells. That's why it's so strong and why your friends can't listen to reason. As a Christian I would deal with spiritual by using spiritual warfare. I would keep praying for my friends, so the spells would be broken, demons behind it bound and cast out, and would even opt for a food fast.
